I felt like when I left home that I was on a journey, and I still am.—Heath Ledger
Artful, Conscious Living with Bipolar Disorder
05 Apr 2017 2 Comments
I felt like when I left home that I was on a journey, and I still am.—Heath Ledger
30 Mar 2017 23 Comments
Sometimes I wonder if the total of my existence is a practice in patience. The Art of Waiting. The Zen of Dealing in the Now. I get so many opportunities.
Anyhoo, this is what I’m up to while I wait for my lungs to clear and my voice to come back.
I found a British detective series at the library starring the 5th Doctor Who (Peter Davison). “Dangerous” Davies is literally the Last Detective his boss would send on a case. He’s a milquetoast, a butt of all jokes, a kind and gentle copper in a department full of cynical creeps. I loved it.
I always need something to do at my craft table when I’m sick. Luckily, the birthday present I made for my therapist took a wrong turn, and I had to rethink it. I’ve been sewing beads for six days now, which is a perfect, mindless activity for a head full of snot. And I like where the piece is heading.
Before I got croupy, I’d cut squares for a quilted wall hanging. A friend, who works at a paint/flooring shop, gave me all their upholstery sample books last summer, and I pulled out bits I thought might look nice in my bedroom. I used a very old scarf of my grandma’s as a focus and built the progression of squares around that. In my infirmary, I’ve sewn the top together, layered it with batting and a back, and am now ready to start quilting. I think it will look lovely on my wall.
I’m not journaling much, but I did try something new. I’ve shifted from paint to organic stuff that stains. Organics like tea and spices are subtle and leave the paper soft. Coffee is my favorite. I make a pot, then take the filter full of wet grounds and scrub it over the paper. The thin filter eventually ruptures and I leave the scattered grounds on the paper all day. Sometimes I add a few drops of ink to the grounds for subtle color.
21 Mar 2017 8 Comments
15 Mar 2017 14 Comments
It’s Week 2 of the latest Bronchitis Bout. Like bipolar disorder, there’s really nothing new about getting month-long lung crud. It happens.
Sorta amazing, really, this blasé acceptance of whatever the day brings. I’m not always this cool, but it’s such a gift when I can be. Seems to me I was raging right up to the point of chills and fever.
A physical shock often resets my bipolar rheostats. Two weeks ago, I was text-wailing at my friend Lily, taking offense wherever I could find it, and wrestling paranoid thoughts to the mat. Today, I did laundry and cleaned up cat barf with nary an emotion in sight.
Except a little glee. I started a goofy spread in my art journal based on something I cut out of an old magazine years ago: “When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.” I worked on this one little piece while my laundry tumbled, and it just made me happy.
Sorta amazing, really.
07 Mar 2017 23 Comments
I woke up this morning feeling like—as my friend, Lily, so delicately puts it—dog shit on the bottom of God’s shoe. Also, furious. But I pulled on my swimsuit, intending to take it out in the water. Except I was 90 minutes early.
I raced to the nearest salon. “Can someone cut my hair right now?”
“Yes!” the hapless pixie piped. “And today all haircuts are $10!”
“Great. Shave it all off. I can’t stand it another second. I’m tired of trying to look like something.”
And I left feeling like my outside finally matched my inside. Furious. And the closest I’ll ever come to looking like Charlize Theron.
I roared off to misbehave and brought home two bags full of art supplies. Now we’ll see what fury can really do.
05 Mar 2017 22 Comments
I’ve stalled out in a mixed-state depression. It’s nothing new, not even very noteworthy, but I’m always surprised by how it changes everything. My perception becomes bleak and twisted, my body slow and creaky. I miscommunicate and send mixed messages, because every part of my brain is mixed. I’m confused and confusing.
Depression with rage is so uncomfortable, and so isolating. I hate everyone. Or am scared of them. Ancient resentments and regrets rise up like specters out of unholy ground. This is the part of my bipolarly existence that sees a life as a hermit as the only option.
I have a couple of mantras during these times:
Keep Your Mouth Shut
It Will Shift Soon
And making art.
Lots of art.
28 Feb 2017 16 Comments
in art, art journaling, bipolar disorder, creativity, exercise, health, mental health, mental illness, mixed-media art, writing Tags: art journaling, dissociation, junk art, PTSD, rapid cycling, walking
We may Choose to Ignore Them
But, What’s the Fun in That?
It all started with butt boils.
Take a part of the human body rich in adipose tissue, add pressure and heat (as in sitting for long periods of time), and that body part will revolt—or become revolting. Enough on that matter.
Next came a therapy session where we connected the dots between trauma and food as my drug of choice. Since my diagnosis of Binge Eating Disorder, I’d set down my shame and guilt about being a Woman of Substance. I’d become kinder, more accepting of my body. But there we were, dredging up all that business, and I found myself disappearing. My hands and feet went numb; a rushing sound filled my head; I seemed to leave my body and drift somewhere behind and above it.
Later, I learned what I’d always called this “shutting down” was technically dissociation—an altered state of consciousness that can include depersonalization, sensory and psychological numbing, disengagement, and amnesia. Most people experience mild forms of detachment, like daydreaming while driving and losing a bit of time. The more pathological end of the spectrum ends up Sybil-like with fragmentation of the personality. It’s a coping mechanism—a way to keep the psyche safe when under attack, whether that attack is real or imagined.
Clearly, I had more work to do with this. Or, as Megan reminded me, not. I always have choices, and she is not the variety of therapist who requires excavation of Hurtful Things.
Soon after, as I sorted my old blog posts into potential book categories, I marveled at how I once worked so very hard at controlling my eating, how I celebrated small victories and believed I made tiny changes in my behavior. And then I always gave up, as my endgame of losing weight could never be reached. I started to wonder if I could ever push gently against the binge eating, if I could find a way to work with it like I’d found ways to work with bipolar disorder—gently, with acceptance and kindness, while still holding the worst symptoms accountable. I had no idea how that might look, but I opened to the possibility instead of shutting myself away from it.
On my way to Orly Avineri’s workshop in Taos, I started reading Foolsgold by Susan Wooldridge. In her introduction she says:
I began writing these pages when I decided to make a small collage box each day for a year with what I found on my walks—often the most ordinary, seemingly worthless bits of nothing. That’s when fool’s gold became foolsgold for me, a field around us, or state of being, where everything can be transformed by our seeing and creativity. Merged into one word, “foolsgold” describes a paradox, the value in what may seem to be worthless. Foolsgold reminds us to look beyond appearances, even in ourselves. What seems to loom in us most darkly may finally be what brings the most light. Everything can be transmuted by attention, play, love.
I used to walk a lot, then stopped as it wasn’t getting me to the destination I wanted. If I had some different motivation to walk, like looking for art fodder along the way, I might be able to do it. I let that idea sit in my hindbrain as I got my self to Taos.
One afternoon, Orly showed us a small art journal her nephew made. An environmental crusader, all his art is made up of junk with space for sketches and ruminations. Orly’s nephew had no concern for style, or balance, or making things look pretty. His art was raw and powerful. And very simple.
I can do that, I thought. And as that realization settled in, my body demanded it.
It took a few weeks once I got home to jumpstart idea to action. But now I have my WalkAbout journal, and every few days I set out with my big zip lock bag and find my material for the day.
Change, even good change, can be stressful. My rapid cycling has been spinning like a hamster wheel. Some days the amount of trash among the trees and berms disgusts and weakens me. I tell myself I can’t go out among all that thoughtlessness again. But the hamster wheel keeps spinning, and I tie on my purple trainers. After a couple of weeks of this, I’m learning to wait for fodder to signal me—light on shiny foil, strange lumps, a flash of color in the dunny weeds. It gets easier and easier. As does the art that comes after.
I’m still on an Adventure.
13 Feb 2017 4 Comments
In that first hardly noticed moment in which you wake,
coming back to this life from the other
more secret, moveable and frighteningly honest world
where everything began,
there is a small opening into the new day
which closes the moment you begin your plans.
What you can plan is too small for you to live.
What you can live wholeheartedly will make plans enough
for the vitality hidden in your sleep.
To be human is to become visible
while carrying what is hidden as a gift to others.
To remember the other world in this world
is to live in your true inheritance.
You are not a troubled guest on this earth,
you are not an accident amidst other accidents
you were invited from another and greater night
than the one from which you have just emerged.
Now, looking through the slanting light of the morning window
toward the mountain presence of everything that can be
what urgency calls you to your one love?
What shape waits in the seed of you
to grow and spread its branches
against a future sky?
Is it waiting in the fertile sea?
In the trees beyond the house?
In the life you can imagine for yourself?
In the open and lovely white page on the writing desk?
01 Feb 2017 21 Comments
Tomorrow I take off for a three-day art workshop in Taos. I met the artist, Orly Avineri, at ArtFest last year and fell in love with her spiritual ways. We’re going to do strange and wonderful things to old passports.
I’m ready for a change of pace, change of scenery, change of mind. I can’t wait to get in my rental car in Albuquerque and hit new roads in a beautiful part of the country. I can’t wait to see what an AirBNB private suite will provide Taos-style. I can’t wait to be with artful folk. Inspiration wafts in the air like bread rising in the oven.
My friend, Sue, will reprise her role as Cat Whisperer. Now that Henry is in his dotage, I need her gentle cat ways to keep from worrying about his finicky bowels and time away from him when there’s not that much time left. Emmett, as always, will be fine under the bed linens where he feels safest.
Once I’m done sorting the first draft I can see what it is. Is there a heart? Is there a through-line? I’m absolutely great with not knowing. It will come. It always does.
So, in a calm and clear state of mind, I’m taking precautions as I haven’t flown since my assignation with Richard Armitage in London three years ago. I’m chewing a couple of Airborne with my morning Shakeology immunity-booster smoothies. Religiously.
But the cootie-infested air on a plane laughs at such feeble measures. I am healthy and well will be my whistling-past-the-graveyard mantra as I squirt hand sanitizer in a pentagram around my seat.
Whatever. It will be worth any bug or virus.
Adventures always are.
15 Jan 2017 24 Comments
in anxiety, art, art journaling, bipolar disorder, cats, depression, distorted thinking, health, mental health, mental illness, mixed-media art, TV and Movies Tags: acceptance, bedbugs, melancholia, mindfulness, Northern Exposure, PTSD, self-compassion
After almost three weeks of Clear, Calm Mind, weeks when I made art with quiet joy and dug into the second draft of my book about being bipolar, weeks when decisions made themselves; after weeks when the Dark Times of last autumn faded, the inevitable shift came.
First, just a melancholia set in as I watched the last season of Northern Exposure (like getting weepy over Hallmark commercials). Mopping up with Kleenex, I would have called myself hormonal if I still had any Girl Parts. But after the final episode, I felt bereft. I’d binge-watched all six seasons of the show, and now it was over. I have a bad feeling about this, my Inner Han Solo muttered.
Later that day, I shut down during therapy. We hit something big, and it blew all the circuits. My therapist talked and all I could hear was the teacher from the Peanuts cartoons (Wah-wah-wah).
It takes me a bit to catch up with the shift. I have to find a little spot of compassion and mindfulness where I can change gears. What do I need? What do I have to take care of and what can wait? I will stay home today and do art at my table instead of going to church and the Writing as a Spiritual Practice group that I love. I can make this decision without guilt or self-loathing. It’s what needs to be today.
Tomorrow I will focus on preparing my apartment for the new bed-bug prevention regiment. There’s a lot to do—vacuum, get everything off the floor, pull the furniture away from the walls. I don’t quite understand what will be done, some kind of silicon mist, so I need to get as much stuff under cover as I can. Then, on Tuesday, the cats and I will camp out at friends all day while this procedure takes place. I’m not sure what kind of clean-up will be required once we get back. All I know is that I can’t vacuum for three days.
Stuff like this is stressful on my best day. I had found a rhythm with the quarterly bug-sniffing dog’s visits, but I guess Radar wasn’t as accurate as advertised. Now management has decided on this annual preventative hoo-haw instead. It’s so disruptive and worrisome.
So, I breathe and try to turn my thinking. I don’t have bedbugs, but if my neighbors do, I’m at risk. So this is a good thing. Proactive. And only once a year. I can do this.
And if it’s all I do this week, it will be enough.