This. Instead of Hiding.

“Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time.

Heartbreak… is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time.

But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way… If heartbreak is inevitable and inescapable, it might be asking us to look for it and make friends with it, to see it as our constant and instructive companion, and even perhaps, in the depth of its impact as well as in its hindsight, to see it as its own reward.

Heartbreak asks us not to look for an alternative path, because there is no alternative path. It is a deeper introduction to what we love and have loved, an inescapable and often beautiful question, something or someone who has been with us all along, asking us to be ready for the last letting go.”

— David Whyte

This quote from David Whyte calls me to be open and available instead of hiding in my apartment until I move to Oklahoma. Leaving will break my heart in many ways as much as moving will give me a new way to be and a family nest. My practice, then, is to lean into the heartbreak, trusting in the gifts it will bring.

7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Writer Lori
    Feb 04, 2018 @ 05:27:49

    So much wisdom here, Sandy. Thank you for allowing us to share your journey and your insights. I’m sure there are many who will be grateful to spend time with you and have the opportunity to say farewell before you embark on this new adventure….


  2. Kitty
    Feb 04, 2018 @ 12:03:34

    I had to read this one 3 times. The first time I didn’t like it… Too many words. The second time I liked it a lot and the third time I really felt it. It’s about the Gifts that don’t come in pretty packages. What we need isn’t always what we want.

    I love you, Subby… in Iowa and in Oklahoma and in heartbreak… Miss Kitty


  3. Kitt O'Malley
    Feb 04, 2018 @ 16:30:33

    Wishing you the best as you lean into your heartbreak as you make this move.


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